We all have friends; real and faux. It’s an unfortunate part of the human experience but one that is manageable in the grand scheme of life.
In the midst of daily life I have learned that avoidance of individuals that are untrustworthy is best for peace of mind and heart. However, there will always be outside forces that keep others near you no matter how many guards you place around you to give yourself the distance you need.
For instance, I went to a party this weekend and lived through a fast experience where I walked in late and was a topic before doing so. It made for a very awkward entrance that I wish I didn’t experience.
I may not be the friend that gets drunk with you and talks badly about others with you, but that’s a good quality as an adult. Spreading rumors about others doesn’t make the subject look bad, it makes the sad soul speaking the words look horribly sad.
To cut to the chase, here’s the quick tea of a topic where I want women to do better…
Ladies, please stop talking about people to minimize who they are because you’re insecure about who you are. If you require alcohol at 10 a.m. you have bigger fish to fry than females you dislike. If you want your life to get on the track without alcohol to start the day, go to a meeting and change everything about yourself except your name.
To the person being attacked, confronting a sick person about their life and actions towards you can make a hostile situation so avoid it. They’re not worth the drama. Take the high road and kiss both sides of their face so you can kill the two-faced individual with the kindness their heartbroken soul needs to get through the day they’re barely making it through.
You do you.
You close the door on toxic people so you can open the door for loving souls that will lift you, not minimize you.