After the last three weeks, I’ve had, I believe everything happens for a reason; good and bad. I’m choosing to find joy and peace within it so I can push through because the truth is that I’m so exhausted and heartbroken but I can’t focus on it because it magnifies the complexity of the situation so I’m breaking them up into little things so I can manage it.
“Enjoy the little things in life, because one day you’ll look back, and realize they were the big things.”
My cat passed away and that was a big thing.
My husband’s horse wins the Derby and that was a big GREAT thing.
My mom was in a horrible car wreck and that was a big thing.
My doctor started me back on chemo and that was a big thing.
All the “things” mixed together become difficult to push through your personal side of life. However, my husband and our horse family are having an amazing time. The in a map of a year, these are big things. In the map of five years, a few are big things… and so on.
The thing that stands out to me in this chaotic time are the people that celebrate you and are able to trudge through the mud with you. There are those that only celebrate with you and that collection is great if you’re into a surface dwelling life. But if you’re really focused on your energy and the energy that surrounds you, you’re going to realize the people that aren’t able to trudge with you aren’t really worth your time nor energy because the compartments of life are full and messy, you need to know who’s there and who isn’t. Time is of the essence and you don’t have any to waste. You can’t give away all your energy and someone else use and abuse it like they don’t care because the sad reality is that they don’t care about you at all. If they did, you wouldn’t wonder about their absence, you’d just know they’ve got you because they showed up.
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” – Leo Buscaglia
Take a gander around and look at the collection of friends around you and what full portrait does that convey the narrative of your life? Seriously, step back and look at all the little acts that add up to be big acts.
It’s much like a collection on a gallery wall. All of these beautiful features in each painting or photograph and that creates the work of art. Same goes for human beings, they’re complex, unique, beautiful, and they can add to a collection or they’re too grand to be placed next to anyone else.
The grand may be great for some but I prefer the collection. No one is better than anyone. No one is too mighty to be left alone. The collection is inclusive, contributing, and takes your breath away when you step forward and realize that without one of them, this collection of art we call life would be nothing without the people that truly love you.
Speaking of collections… here’s the grandest of them all:
– Shirt from Six Sisters NuLu
– Blazer and necklace from Stitchfix
– Jeans from Ann Taylor Loft
– Ballet flats from Nine West
– Bracelets from Unbridled Eve
– Belt from Gordmans
– Ring from my love
– Smile from my photog and dear friend, Anna May