How do we ever move forward in life without getting our feelings hurt in some capacity over direct or passive negative intentions?
As I asked my mother this question she reminded me that we do this no matter what happens because you have to be the big girl to get through the people that think in small ways; primarily on themselves. She reminded me of middle school and the horrible rumors and the faux-friend bullies that made it a living hell and she said the same thing then; “You can’t control how people will treat you but you can control the way you respond.”
So I will leave the BIG topic out of this and say that in recent months I’ve experienced a new wave of faux friends that I’m not mad at but instead intensely disappointed in. But c’est la vie… I won’t give them more attention than this blog post does.
It’s never too soon or too late to change your entire life so why wait till a specific date to do so with your personal life as it is impacting you? I’m cutting the fat and basically making this the only explanation.
If someone is your friend, they’re your friend when you can do nothing for them and do everything for them. You’re there when they get on your nerves. You’re there when they’re becoming reclusive because they’re battling real shit and can’t chase you and your surface level drama.
I have Crohn’s and Lupus. I don’t and won’t chase anyone… even if I were healthy, I’m in my late 30’s; I’m too old for this high school level activity.
Setting my intention to move forward with or without others based on their actions makes this very simple. It’s not me, it’s you but since you can’t identify why your actions to me are sideways, I’ll give you the easy out and just say that I wish you the best and I hope that whoever you are on the inside is able to sleep at night when you have actions that reflect a very negative human state.
Seretonin works well and is available over the counter at most grocery stores and pharmacies.
Sweet dreams.
