How do you have the poise to go forward in life as the world spins around on it’s axis?
Per google searches, “Having poise is being balanced, graceful, and elegant in social situations. If you want to become poised, you need to increase your self-confidence, become a great communicator, and learn how to keep your composure in difficult situations.”
Self-acceptance doesn’t make you perfect, it makes you a forgiving human being to yourself and others by realizing their actions aren’t your own, they’re representational of them. However, there is peace within that recognition as you can see past their surface level actions and you know within that leather shell they’re tortured.
No one should knowingly cause conflict within themselves or others; only a monster is capable of doing that. But monsters do exist… so how do you navigate past these black-hearted behemoths?
Since you’re not a child, you have to put on your big girl undies, stand tall, chin up, walk with confidence, and smile. Smile at them and say hello. They won’t know what do. They’ll either stay silent in shock that their tactics didn’t rock you or they’ll snarl in your face with a snide hello just to keep their scary persona alive and well in their mind.
Either way, you have to smile and keep on glowing. You can’t focus on them nor their dreary existence in you a slice of your life. A kind person would give you the same kindness you’ve given them. Even when they’ve completely disrespected you and your marriage, they’re merely a twisted fan that will reap what they sow.
Don’t accept the coffee date, the casual talk, nor the smug attitude to heart. If you do, they’re winning at their attempt to make you push you out of the groove you’ve finally found.
I’m not an expert but you can take a note from the playbook that I lived last night. A surface level innocent-ish monster lurked within 20 steps of me to make it very clear they weren’t going away anytime soon and so I stood my ground and realized their sad attempt was fueled by liquid courage and a lot of resentment that truly doesn’t involve me.
Where we are in life is a result of the decisions we make and how we respond to the conflicting impact that the universe likes to throw your way from time to time.
Collective consciousness is a decision you have to make each day when you open your eyes.
You have to allow yourself the possibility to evolve in every capacity or else people and situations can become stagnant and quite scary if you stay too long.
Don’t forget that as you grow you must sow the best seeds with the hope that they’ll transpire to kindness, clarity, inner peace, patience, and empathy.
The layers upon layers of depths unseen by surface dwelling is where self-love is alive and well, you have to feed it positivity to keep it around when you need it most.
Life gets pretty crazy. The only way you’ll survive is work for your mental health and not allow others to impact your compassion and courage to live a life with that is full of peace and love. Shock yourself and them when you decide to survive and thrive IRL whilst allowing them to see that no matter how hard they try, they can’t throw you off your axis.
xoxo, Bella
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