Allowing circumstance to eat away at your peace of mind, spirit, or heart isn’t worth the seconds, minutes, hours, or days it deserves. Adversity impacts all of us, the depth of it is relative to the person it’s happening to.
Scope this study: “Psychologists are starting to identify key characteristics that are found in people that display resilience. The most important characteristic is how people choose to view failure. Everyone falls but we are only human, and can get up again. The key to becoming resilient is found in how you choose to view your failings. While we all have moments of strength, it is how we react to adversity that can define us. It is being able to look at your challenges as opportunities to become stronger and more complete.
That does not necessarily mean blind confidence. What it does entail however, is the confidence that these experiences will make you a more complete person. Falling is just one way to show you can improve yourself and to know that this experience will be used in a positive light because it is within your control. Life is not a race and you do not need to be at any stage that you are not ready for, but sometimes you might feel like you are falling behind. This sense of failure can be overwhelming, but if we are able to turn the phrase around and realize that our life is just that—our life—then we can keep plugging away without worrying about what others think. Being happy everyday requires someone to be able to be happy for their past because it shaped them into the person they are today. That belief that you’ll love the person you are, comes from a strong place of resilience and knowing you can tackle adversity. We grow in self-confidence and with that comes the belief that we are strong and capable of great things. When we do feel those setbacks if we can view them as healthy and normal, then we will truly be able to take them as moments for tremendous self-growth.”
Whether you’re fighting an illness, mending a broken heart, or worse, there’s always something to push you through it and in case you don’t know what the reason is, it’s you.
Toughen up, buttercup. If I can handle the shit that gets thrown at me, you can handle the shit that’s thrown your way. I never advise lying or hiding, but when it comes to you being resilient, fake it till you make it. Tell yourself to get up as we all fall from time to time. Life isn’t going to slow down for you to adjust so must persevere. You’ve got a wonderful life to live.