Advice I would give my younger self:
1) Stop. No really, be still. Take time one day a week to regroup and catch up on sleep.
2) Never follow your head or your heart — listen to your gut instead.
3) You are not perfect. No matter what you do or say or how hard you try, you are human and infallible. You can’t change that so please stop trying because you’re wasting a lot of energy. Be you, it’s so much more interesting.
4) Don’t burn your bridges. You never know when you’ll need to cross them again.
5) That ex-boyfriend of yours who always wanted you to dress up, wear heels, and look sexy for him all the time, isn’t and never will be “the one”. Your future husband will think you look sexy in sweats and encourage you to be the realest version of yourself you’ve ever been. Dress how you want.
6) Your true friends are the ones who are there for you, who listen to you and who support you in healing.
7) Giving your power away never ends well. In the moment, taking responsibility might seem like the most painful route, but trust me when I say that taking ownership over the choices you make in life will save you from a lot of healing work in the future.
8) Failing is winning. This might sound funny to you now, but believe me when I tell you that all of your failures are laying out a path for you to succeed big-time. It’s better to fail before you make it, than to fail when you’ve already made it and lose everything due to lack of experience. And even if you do lose everything, you can make it all back and then some. Life is full of surprises, so buckle up and enjoy the ride.
9) Don’t rush to grow up. One day, you’re going to be married, have kids, or comment on how your cat is so lucky that they don’t have any responsibility. Just enjoy this time you have to be young, and hopefully care-free.
10) Everything is going to be ok. You’re going to lose people, get your heart-broken, feel alone, and totally depressed. Nothing is ever permanent, so next time you’re wrapped up in thoughts of how awful everything is – visualize the way you want things to be instead. Eventually, the tide will turn and life will be more amazing than you ever thought possible.