Watching the movie “Before I Fall” as I await my next flight feels like this day will never end and I sure as hell hope there isn’t any falling in planes awaiting me.
Falling feels metaphorical for me as I watch this and the opening song takes me back to a season when I saw the band with a person that didn’t care how far I fell. He wasn’t there at all to even observe the fall. But it was a great lesson to never fall for someone that isn’t there. It seems as though they’re aloof and playing hard to get but it isn’t the case at all.
If a man wants you he’s there to catch, lift, support, romance, and love you. If he isn’t doing any of these things, I highly suggest moving on and to do it faster than he can blink.
I obviously got over it and I believe we’re friends today because of it. I could have developed resentment but I chose friendship because there was less pain that way. Resentments build into more emotions than sad, they transition into anger and that’s not a place to live a happy life.
Love is a battlefield or so Holly Knight and Mike Chapman wrote; more famously performed by Pat Benatar. But in every battle we must be able to acknowledge the brutality of it. Wars aren’t won without sacrifice, nobility, bravery, and humility. You have to do these things without letting pain from the past impact your life today.
For love to work you must learn to sacrifice and compromise with one another. You have to be noble and decent as you uphold the ideals you and your partner have made that are equally beneficial. You must be brave and love as though you’ve never been hurt. You must also be humble as you’re respectful to your spouse and their wishes without losing your own integrity.
Imagine your life together as a battlefield. You could go out on the field and find out you’re out there alone or you could end up having that person by your side. That’s the trust that’s required. You have to trust and believe that they’re going to be out there.
Could they leave you high and dry? Yep. But how will you ever know unless you try?
There’s always going to be a chance that you can be deceived. That goes without saying for a great majority of relationships we have in life. However, that’s what makes love so beautiful. When it works and the guy IS actually there for you, you’re going to see that your belief in them and in the love you share is 100% real without any deception of any kind.
So let go and fall. The right person will be there.