Signs, sometimes we see them, sometimes we ask for them, and sometimes they’re so apparent but we’re too focused on the details to notice the broad covering of troubles taking you straight into an iceberg that is going to sink your happy little boat.
As I’m humming the Titanic theme song and thinking of Rose Dawson being one helluva woman, it transports me to a time where I once felt lost and on a sinking ship because I couldn’t grasp the severity of a situation until it brought my life to a holt and caused me to go through a life changing series of events that saved my life.
I avoided all signs, all caution tape, all pleads from my family, any advice from friends, I even stopped praying for that time. In the footprints in the sands of time, it will be looked at as the time I was carried because I was truly too ill to carry myself. I didn’t have UC nor Crohn’s then so it was truly a different era of my life all together.
I believe everything happens for a reason. I believe everyone on your path has a purpose on your journey. They can deeply impact you with pain, love, and peace. Sometimes once person can do all of the three things. Those people are the soulmates that won’t stay in your life. They come into your life when you need them, the reflect all that is bad to send a ripple effect of what they’re meant to, and then all at the end you find peace with their role and you’re ready to walk away. You walk away with your chin held high and know that they said or did horrible things but those things made you so much stronger than you’ve ever been. One thing I’ll roll caution to you on is that if that person stays, that pain shouldn’t be a constant things. That ain’t love, sweetheart. That’s pure evil creating pain in your heart that shouldn’t be there.
If those signs are apparent and you’re recognizing it but aren’t doing anything to stop it. Let it be known that your ship will be sinking very soon and at a rapid pace.
Your ship needs to be strong but remember this one thing; your heart is it’s engine, your mind is your navigation, and your gut is your intuition. All of these things have to be aligned in order to make it to your next destination.
Take note of the signs. Take note of each one and remember them. They’re guiding you along your path, just keep your eyes and mind open so you can maintain your balance and path.
Train others how to treat you. Do not ever take any emotional abuse from anyone; friends can be the same about this also. Train your relationships about what you’ll keep and what you won’t keep near you.
If these relationships leave you feeling like you aren’t worth anything to the other person, you must run far and as fast as you can. Jump off of the boat into the unknown waters and learn that you are much stronger than you ever though you were. Sure your last boat may sink but the rescue boat has already arrived. Thankful you survived that one.
Take it back to the basics and begin again. Only this time, bring your map, heart, and journal. Your map will keep you on the right course with the experience of the past, and bring your journal so you write about life every single day from here forward.
Document your life and see the drastic shift begin to take place as you watch for signs and adjust your life accordingly. Change can be difficult. Be easy on yourself as you grown.
You’re the in the final days of the 2016 chapter of your life. How do you plan on improving your quality of life by surrounding yourself with positive people?
Make a list and check it twice to find out what brings you joy and what doesn’t. When you find our the joy part, go on a life detox and get yourself out of relationships that are simply weighing your down.
Keep me posted! I’d love to hear your experiences with this.