Taking the time to retrain your brain can be one of the most difficult things we can do because no matter how small or big the edit it is, the impact of that change can dramatically shift the pace and depth of your existence.
Gen X, Y, and millennials are facing issues that previous generations haven’t. Everyone has had to select their areas of interest and excel, that’s been a concept since the for decades. However, the world we’ve grown-up in told us that we can do it all, be it all, and we better kill it in every aspect of our life.
When you add in the social and relationship dynamics of go to every event we’re invited to on Facebook and liking all of our friends and families posts on each social media channel. This doesn’t even include the reality of the real world. Off-line activities have to be the depiction we’ve learned since 1950’s. Women are expected to be an amazing wife that cooks, cleans, be the personal assistant to the home, do laundry, work-out, look immaculate, and hopefully killed it at work that day and / or with the hobbies we’ve created with our philanthropic interests.
If you have kids or instal-kids than take the paragraph above and multiply it x 10 because you want to be available for them, love them, teach them, build a lasting bond, and do all of this with the hopes that you’re doing it right because your impact on them will be an echo that lives within them the rest of their lives.
No big deal, right?
I’m shaking my head as I type. We have to conserve our energy to the things that matter. Yes, work and social life can be very fulfilling but what does that look like after you’ve closed your laptop or put your phone down? You can’t be it all for everything and anticipate that your spouse, kids, and family are going to be okay.
Friends that are family may be the only exception to the rule but we must strive to have a spark with those that spark back and that should be your nearest and dearest. If it isn’t, I hope you take a moment to challenge yourself today and with the new year to only give your flame to someone that gives it back.
If you don’t, you’re running a risk of burning out and being alone. That isn’t the final chapter than anyone wishes to have. Write your own book and control your life to be so full of flames that you’ll never know what the cold feels like on your heart, mind, and soul.