The headline can bring about so many different thoughts. Is it driving my car? Is it walking alone in the park? Is it traveling all by myself? Is it from drinking? Is it what I’m eating? Is it the products I’m using? What in God’s name can it be?
Keep calm …
Yes, any of those thing can be listed as dangerous but the answer I’m referring to is the point we sometimes hit where we deny ourselves the life we want because we let others give their advice and input sway our decisions which is either asked for when we’re unsure or its given with very little regard for what we really want; acceptance.
We all want to be accepted and loved for all of our weird quirks but sometimes that isn’t possible because of someone else’s resentments, contrasting views, and of course there are Becky’s with bad attitudes; you know she’s cousins with Negative Nancy.
These bad attitudes exist because they’re unhappy and they want to place their jaded views on you to keep you from being happy. When this happens it’s essential to remember that hurt people will hurt people just to transfer and / or share their pain. It’s an updated version of the old fashioned saying; “misery likes company.” Except misery doesn’t like company it sniffs it out and attacks you on your weak points till you give.
Don’t give! Be yourself and never lose your authenticity.
It’s important to remember that their opinion of you and anything else in your life doesnt matter. If it did they’d speak with you about their concerns for your life, not talk to you in a condescending manner dripping with disapproval.
The only time I’m hurt is when someone intentially tries to hurt me. Otherwise, I let it roll off of my back because when I didn’t do this in the past it consumed me with worries that I’m not good enough to be treated better.
I don’t think I’ll ever fully understand how people can intentionally hurt others but I’ve learned that it’s best if I just let that person do what they think they should and then keep a far distance from them.
Eventually I tell them that I’ve learned the lesson … They were aiming to hurt me and the pain is acknowledgement that they’ve succeeded by doing what they intended to.
Then I ask them if it was worth it.
I’ve never heard anyone own the fact that they wanted to hurt me on purpose so I believe this form of communication matters because it makes them accountable for their behavior and that notifies them that they did indeed hurt you.
Take a moment and think about your life. Then write on three pieces of paper. (1) Make a list of the things that you do that make you happy. (2) Make a list of the things that bring you joy, outide of yourself. (3) Write out a list of the things you want to do to create a shift in your life to achieve and maintain joy whether its through people, places, things, or whatever.
Happiness is happiness. Don’t let anyone define it for you. You have to define it for yourself.
Letting someone impact your life negatively because they’re miserable is letting someone else win and impact you.
When you silence yourself to let others voice overpower yours, you’re losing yourself which is the most dangerous thing you can do.
Make today brighter and better with the simple action of blocking out the bad and sad so you can create more space for the good; karma, people, places, things to do, et cetera.
Life is short!
Live it up!
You deserve it!