Pee-ew, that stinks. I think it’s your … *Hold your breath!* ‘tude … It’s your attitude and it stinks worse than bowel movements. I have Ulcerative Colitis (UC) so I think I’ve mastered the art of finding the source what stinks … And it’s your ‘tude.
Within the last year my weight has gone from 115 to 138. Not a huge difference but a wave of either wearing a size 2 or 4 (sometimes a tight 4). This is an okay size with me. I haven’t ever had weight issue and have been content with where I am in weight but wanted to tighten, tone, and lean out in my problem areas; we all tend to have at least one area that fat goes to naturally. I’m not a Kardashian so my extra fat doesn’t go to my lips, breasts, or butt … It goes to my stomach. I’m lucky, I know.
My stomach is also a problem area because of my UC. It gets swollen, sore, and prevents me from doing a lot of things that I wish I could do and it sometimes stops me from wearing a lot of outfits I want to wear.
In the last few months my girlfriend, Lynnie, told me about a fitness challenge group that she was starting. Along the same time I found a wonderful yoga and body work specialist, Stephanie. Both ladies have helped me with my fitness goals and made great recommendations for my diet. My dad is also a strong believer in the Paleo approach to my diet and I just found a page on Facebook for auto-immune paleo diets.
All of this is great news, right? I’m finally getting in the best shape of my life and it’s amazing, right? I would think so but others may not feel the same way. I was told by a few women this week that I’m getting “too skinny” and the one comment that hurt the worst was; “You’re going to look like $h*t on your wedding day if you don’t stop dieting.”
I love the truth and I love honesty but when did it become negative? I don’t believe there has ever been a day I’ve walked up to any woman or man and told them that they look bad based on their weight or any other physical feature. If I’ve ever said anything bad it would be that the person looks sad or tired and they should take care of themselves, but I wouldn’t attack anyone’s looks. It’s just mean.
My current stats:
Body fat: 18%
Could I weigh more? Sure. Should I? Arguable either way. Does it hurt when people make comments about things they know nothing about? Yep.
I read a quote not too long ago about how insecurities scream while confidence is silent. When I walk into a room (I’m usually late and acting frantic) but I try to smile at everyone I know. I do my rounds of hello’s, hugs, and quick updates / compliments because I’m genuinely excited to see whoever it is. I hope that I never turn and become the sort of person that greets other people with body shaming words.
It may sound corny but I truly think you can find beauty in every single person on earth. Beauty in their eyes, smile, the way they do something, whatever. Everyone is beautiful and everyone has a unique quality that only they have. Let’s focus on this. Let’s not focus on my weight, your weight, or their weight. We’re all on this incredible journey together so let’s make the most of it.
Please remember, we don’t know what other people are challenged with. There are so many silent diseases that so many people have. Even if you think you know someone you may not know every detail about them. They could have been in the bathroom till 3:00 am the morning before. They could have been at the gym trying to grow their muscles and heal their mind. They could be battling a war you know nothing about.
Words are like knives when used the wrong way. Words are like sunshine and glitter when used the right way. Let’s spread more sunshine and glitter. The best way to start is to LOVE your #selfie first. Love and accept yourself first so you can love and accept others.
Love, love, love.
Let’s flush this negative attitude.