Conflict is an inevitable part of life, sometimes good and sometimes bad, it’s all in how you look at the situation. As you know, conflict can be defined as a struggle between two or more forces that creates a tension that must be resolved (although in some stories, as in real life, it isn’t). The traditional breakdown of conflict is: 1) Man vs. man (external) 2) Man vs. nature (external) and 3) Man vs. self (internal)
Conflict is important in relationships because it provides the basic materials for mixing of both parties values and lives which will inevitably end in at least one conflict if not a few. Without conflict nothing would happen; the relationship wouldn’t be impacted which means it would never grow which means it would not grow and change for the best. Conflict can be indicative of two people who each have their own views and opinions, and are willing to share them. Healthy arguing means that there is open communication and a desire to share the values that are important to the people in the relationship which can be a conflict if one of those values is being compromised.
If you don’t speak about your fights than it can be taken as a sign that you really don’t care enough to make that conversation a priority. Speaking your mind can also show your partner that you are passionate. Watch your partner or love interest being passionate about their values can be refreshing; their passion comes from the inner desires of their heart. Passion comes from our beliefs and value system, which creates a purpose for our very existence.
Conflict can come when we are at any stage of any day. It just depends what is going on with our partner, nature, or ourselves. Try not to get too low with the low of a fight because you never know what can happen if you remain positive, patient and passionate. Breathe in and breathe out. One fight doesn’t mean it is the end of relationship, it could be the very beginning of a new, healthy one.