Today’s post came from a prompt in my writing workshop, Feet to the Fire with Angela Burton.
— How someone makes herself or himself scarce. —
Look at her. Look at how beautiful she is. The sun is shining so bright around her. The light highlights her hair and her hazel eyes so perfectly.
She smiles at me and laughs at my jokes … How is she so carefree when I know all that she has gone through? Her strength intimidates me. The grace she displays makes me question what kind of a person I am. Do I deserve to know her? Do I deserve the love she gives so freely?
I pull away. I make myself scarce. She thinks it’s unrequited love … I like her, I’m just scared. I’m scared of the love she can give me, of the love I can give her.
Robert Cialdini, one of the foremost experts on influence, found that people value and desire something more when it is rare or difficult to obtain. He called this the Scarcity Principle.
But will she still want me when other men are not scarce. Will she wait for me to get over my fears? Can I get over my fears? Can I make myself available? How can I be the man I need to be? How can I be enough?