Sometimes we stay in relationships for too long. But how does it get that way? How do we miss the red flags? Do we choose to overlook them or are we just afraid of starting all over again?
Relationships always start off great. They’re full of trust and hopes of what could be. You naturally tell your new person everything so you can give them a better understanding of you and your life. Then it’s the honeymoon phase and nothing goes badly, life coasts and you keep up with them as desired. But if you’re one of the unlucky ones, something bad happens and it will completely blindside you. This occurrence can be looked at as the defining moment of your relationship. You can either rise to the occasion or you part ways, sounds simple but it can be complex since there are emotions involved. If you do it the right way there can be little to no pain involved. This of course requires both parties to be completely analytical about the situation and explain how your needs aren’t being met, and if that person really wants you to be healthy, they’ll let you go. Being analytical in a sometimes emotional state can be difficult, I know. Just focus on what will come and what could be rather than what is no longer there.
To cut to the chase, I have decided that today is the day I break-up with my doctor. Battling ulcerative colitis has been a thing again in recent weeks and having a doctor that isn’t listening to my concerns has brought me back to square one planning my future; because we aren’t anything if we don’t have our health.
So far my doctor has given me numerous medications that have temporarily helped but taking medications isn’t a lifestyle I wish to live anymore, I’m way too young to have a constant pill I need to be taking after each meal or when I wake up or before I go to sleep … So if anyone out there knows of a great herbalist or alternative medical therapy for anything with UC, don’t hesitate to message me with the details!
And a quick side note on this topic, when did skinny shaming become a thing? When did it become socially acceptable to tell people that they need to eat or that they’re too skinny? Be nice, you don’t know if that person really can’t eat all the things you think they should to fatten them up. Maybe you should eat your words and put yourself in someone else’s shoes … Tastes bad, doesn’t it? Words don’t taste as well when you have to eat them instead of spew them out. Just a little food for thought.