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Love me not, Tinder.

Louisville · Love | 11.06.14

 We never plan on being alone. No one desires it and every aspect of our lives is geared toward being around other people and having a partner. As you can figure out from reading my blog, I’m single. It is an interesting time to say the very least … It seems as though every person I know has their opinion on whether I should should stay single or if you should jump into the dating world. It’s nice to have input from people that you love but at the end of the day it is truly up to each of us as to what works best for us and makes us happy.

With that being said and being fairly new to the singles world I was naturally interested in seeing what online dating was all about, especially the newest of all the dating apps, Tinder. It is what all the current rage is about. Creating an account is as simple as downloading the Tinder app to your phone and connecting it to your Facebook page; you have to have Facebook linked in order for it to work.

So many of my single friends use this app and claim to have great success stories. At first glance I thought it may be interesting and so I started to swipe. It is not a smart app because it brings up every guy that you already know that is on there … If you want to date men you already know, just make a post on Facebook asking guys to send you a message; it’s just about the same thing.

Then there are the men that you don’t know and they are kind of sketchy looking and you wouldn’t want to meet them because you don’t want to be a missing person. Sure we have to have the first spark of interest which is often a superficial one, but I didn’t like the constant swiping to the left or the right. It was mostly left, not that the men were bad looking, but profile pictures can be very telling of who a person is and what they are into. If a guy is throwing deuces with a bunch of guys in a night club or in a picture or in a picture kissing another girl he will probably not be a great match for me, nor most women on earth.

I am an overly cautious person when it comes to having people in my home or knowing where I live now that I’m a single gal. So if you value your privacy a bit because you are also a single woman, you may want to consider the danger aspect of this app. The fact that you can tell when someone is “less than a mile away” made me completely paranoid. What if I accidentally swiped right and wound up in the trunk of someone’s car; it’s not a fun train of thought. Having the experience (or lack thereof) made me realize this is definitely not how dating will ever work for me. And if you haven’t already guessed, I have closed my Tinder account.

eHarmony and Match.com seem like they’re a little bit more legit and I’m less likely to go missing for being on them. Stay tuned for that update or if I go missing you know where to start looking. Kidding, but really. As much as I am an online person with my work and personal life, online dating may not be for me but recognizing that I am ready to date and the possibilities of finding real love have been two of the biggest milestone I have overcame in recent months. And I’m not going to lie, finding someone that has been able to make me smile has been very nice and refreshing. *Insert butterflies in stomach*

Tinder may be for some people but it is definitely not for this lady. Love me, Tinder … Love me not. Sorry for the pun Elvis fans. I couldn’t help myself.

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  1. Alden says

    11.06.14 at 3:38 pm

    I love that you tried out tinder! I liked it for the safety I feel it provided me. They don’t know anything that I don’t want them to know. No phone numbers, email, or even my last name. Yes, they can tell if you are close or not, but in a buzzing metropolis, you could be one of 10,000 people. I like it because you can communicate on your phone without having to divulge your number and can meet up in a public location with plenty of other people around! Go you!!!! I am recently single as well and have had a hard time with the dating scene, so if you ever want to get together for a drink and a “swiping” session, let me know! You aren’t alone!

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