Have you ever come so close to the end of a journey you thought you’d complete only to find out it wasn’t the right time?
I’ve had those knocks a few times more than I’d like to admit. So much so that I often question the validity in which I held space for the person, place, or time. Pondering this too long can take you into a dangerous neighborhood with confusing mazes of “Shoulda. Coulda. Woulda.” awaiting you to make you feel abandoned and stripped of your hope.
So what do you do? Do you throw in the towel and run? I think not.
Instead you use that towel to wipe up the sweat and tears, rise and repeat till you’re ready to get back into your groove again. Why? Because hope is the new dope.
It may seem daunting and pointless because giving in is sometimes easier; but note this… short-term approaches are weak to manage. It makes your life a house of cards that will crumble around you with one wrong step.
Hope must have a foundation that’s as detailed as that pumping organ in your chest; your heart. It’s strong, mighty, sensitive, powerful enough to make you live or difficult enough to take you down.
Fun facts about the heart and lessons from each one:
– The average heart is the size of a fist in an adult. | Put your dukes up and show your grit. You are strong and capable. Watch your back and take care of yourself first.
– Your heart will beat about 115,000 times each day. | Don’t waste a single beat with things that are harmful to your peaceful zone. *A normal resting heart rate is between 60 and 100 beats per minute. ^ Reading honest words, surrounding yourself with friends that really love you, eating well, resting when needed, et cetera. The list is endless. Make each beat count and cultivate genuine relationships and appreciation for life itself.
– The heart can continue beating even when it’s disconnected from the body. | Wear your heart on your sleve? Girl, same here! But being cold and bitter isn’t the answer. Let your freak flag heart blow in the wind to let likehearted humans find you. Connect with the lovely local ladies in Louisville. Personal and professional women run strong in our city!
– The beating sound of your heart is caused by the valves of the heart opening and closing. | Hearing the heartbeat of someone you are talking to gives the same feeling of personal contact as looking each other in the eye, *according to new research. The research focuses on improving human contact when using digital communication channels. | It’s my favorite way to listen to my husband. When we’re unwinding from our day my guilty pleasure is to rest my head to his chest to listen to him speak; it takes me home in an instant.
– It’s possible to have a broken heart. It’s called broken heart syndrome and can have similar symptoms as a heart attack. The difference is that a heart attack is from heart disease and broken heart syndrome is caused by a rush of stress hormones from an emotional or physical stress event. | I had one in 2014 and promptly drove myself to the hospital for an overnight testing and treatment. PTSD from a difficult breakup sent my body into a depleted state; physically ,emotionally , personally , and professionally. I hired a life coach, found a great doctor, surrounded myself with loving friends, and worked through it with positivity as my navigator.
– Laughing is good for your heart. It reduces stress and gives a boost to your immune system. | Have you ever worked through a phase that was a welcomed challenge and watched it fall apart because of envy or greed? It’s a comical experience when masks fall away from people you thought you knew. Through all heartache attached to it you can either cry or laugh… personally, I’m done crying for friends that used me as a social steppingstone. I must laugh at myself for not realizing it while it was happening. There’s no time to cry for facades. It doesn’t do any good to waste tissues over them.
Laugh at the past.
Live with intention.
Hope with positivity.
Make every heart beat count.
Anchor your spirit with love.
Find the light. It’s time to rebuild.