Grudges, easy to get and hard to shake. They’re typically made when someone doesn’t mean to be rude because their “snark” is meant as wordplay even though their words hurt. Fun fact, we can get away with hurting others with wordplay if we follow them with a “just playing” statement and a giggle.
^ Please note the extreme sarcasm in that sentence.
Hurting others means you’re hurt and taking it out on them just to spread your negativity. How awful do you feel about yourself to consistently be mean to “a friend” just because you want them to live in the same space?
The worst part is when it’s done with the assumption that a glittery person won’t say anything to stand-up fir themselves. How long can you hurt someone just because you don’t feel good about you?
That’s not friendship, sweetheart. That’s just mean.
I read a quote about how we must be our own best friend and learn to guard ourselves from those that hurt us; intentionally and unintentionally. The first step in doing so is learning who loves you and who treats you like your feelings, heart, and life actually matter.
It’s okay to have the feels. Have them and don’t let anyone treat you like you’re a glittery bimbo just because you’re being you. Feel empathetic for them that they don’t have the grit to face their own demons without hurting others.
Repeat with me: You. Are. Amazing.
Say it to yourself and never forget it. If someone doesn’t have the courtesy to treat you the way they wish they were treated, you must find the courage to voice your feelings before it becomes a grudge.
Address it, forgive it, and move on.
Don’t drink the nasty concoction they’re serving. Pass on that libation because it’s not going to hurt them at all. Realize it’s legit poison and that resentment is only going to hurt you.