Have you ever wondered how you got to where you are? I have a million times and even more as so with my current life situation.
How was I lucky enough to live past things that should have killed me?
Why do I have a positive attitude?
How can I still be sick?
Blah. Blah. Blah.
It’s all words that grow into an exacerbated introspection that can only be answered by a simple and perplexing word; fate.
As we all know, fate is debatable because there isn’t scientific proof that shows how each of us has a predetermined destiny. If only Google Maps could give us walking or driving directions to be our compass when we feel lost, we’d all be set.
Wishful thinking, right?
Whether you call fate, luck, karma, God’s will or whatever; it’s a concept much larger than our minds and hearts can ever begin to fathom.
If you’re a religious person, it’s passed as God’s will and maybe it is. I envision God to look like The Little Mermaid’s dad with the voice of Morgan Freeman. In this physical depiction it’s easy to believe God is real because I have a visualization that I pray to. Funny but true and it saves me on my worst days.
I recently read a report from the CDC where they reported the higher rate of happiness associated with Americans that have faith. This same report was also based on populations that were surveyed in the southern and northern parts of the United States and the polled populations were of an older demographic. Is it with age that we find ourselves and our faith or is it with us throughout our journey?
*I must add that this is in no way a religious post. I don’t bible beat anyone, ever. I have a “live and let live” mentality but my personal experiences have made me the person I am and that person survived horrific things over ten years ago so that has made me a believer.
Just because I think God may look a certain way or has a wonderful voice to imagine when I pray, it certainly doesn’t mean that I’m right and you’re wrong so please calm down, Judge Judgey McJudgerton.
Although, with age I’m learning and experiencing faith in new forms. I feel connected when the sun hits my skin, my parents hug me, my husband loves me, or even when my girlfriends and I laugh, cry, and grow together. It’s all real and grounding in the most authentic way; we just have to pay attention to that current moment and let it all soak in.
If we’re not living in the moment, our brains will keep us in the past. Its a learned behavior that all of us must move past at one point in our lives or another.
The only time I find any situation dangerous for my serenity is when I forget to realize the bigger picture. I’m human, I eff up sometimes and when I do, I have to pull myself away from hyperfocusing on the bad cause there is so much good going on around us that if we don’t make note, life will march on and leave you stuck where you’re feeling sad and lost.
I chose light so many years ago and I had a battle for my life till I realized that I didn’t have to search far and wide for light and love. They were already in my heart and soul.
Wishful thinking can provide an inner cheerleader that you’ll forgot ever existed. Once found this light will guide you in and out of situations. Call it fate, God, destiny, the universe, karma, energy, faith, chakras, positive vibes, et cetera. It has many names but its limitless and can taje you places you never imagined could exist for you in this wild world.
This inner compass and light will bring you to the most beautiful souls on earth. It’s earth so you will also find some toxic people that will bring you negativity. The trick is to cut them out of your life instantly. Wish them well, send the prayers, positive vibes, and point them into the right direction for therapy then release them from your life.
The struggle to get to where you want to be will be hard. whether you want to be a super strong Girlboss or be a mama or both or none of the above. It’s a struggle to get to where anyone wants to be. If it were easy everyone would have be exploading glitter 24/7 and that’s not reality.
To borrow the theme from a cleaver 1990’s anthem, life can make a hole in your heart but you have to keep going. Fool yourself if you must, just never let it sink your ship.
Studies on smiles have reported that smiling can give us the same happiness that exercising induces in terms of how our brain responds. In short: our brain feels good and tells us to smile, we smile and tell our brain it feels good and so forth.
When you believe it’ll get better, it will. Health changes, love transforms, friendship flames flicker or burn out, careers are busy, bills come, debt goes, and the right people with the right glittery hearts will eventually find their way into your life and they will never leave you.
Seek out the lighthouse to bring your ship back in and if you can’t find it, become it.
It’s going to be a beautiful life because you’re going to make it one.
Fight on little fighter.