“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you can start.” – Nido Qubein
The foundation of any new relationship is followed by a broken relationship is developed from a state of loss. It’s a negative insight but an important one to realize the formation of this new relationship is brought about by two broken hearts.
How those hearts and hopes are healed is debatable by the masses with varied beliefs on the art of moving on but one sobering truth is that the new love will be impacted by the old love regardless as to how much your partner no longer wants their ex… it’s more about the sad reality that the problems from the former love are held upon the new love to clean up; the mess becomes yours.
It’s a messy space to dip in unless you’re ready to jump all in and dedicate your time and attention to how you can make a statement of who you are by treating them as you would have them treat you. It’s the simplest plan for making sense of the past and has the serenity to move forward together.
The circumstances that brought you together were the starting point. The rest is up to the two of you as partners in life with love as the focus. I’ve personally overcome a lot with my husband and I’m not an expert therapist about love but I am knowledgeable about the makings of what a healthy relationship looks like. We’re not perfect, not even a little, we’re just two people that decided to push through boundaries and pain to find love on the other side.
Life is messy.
Clean it up with love.