No matter how well you educate and train yourself about the complex pathways in life, there will always be a person connected to you or a person in your life that loves nothing more than stirring up drama instead of being kind and respectful.
The response that pops in my mind is this fact: hurt people, hurt people. Think about it, have you ever met a mindful and peaceful human being spew hate? I haven’t.
I challenge anyone to find a moral imperative that prompts an individual to intentionally cause harm instead of attempting to cultivate love into the world that surrounds them. I gather that your findings will be the same as mine.
Anna May Photography for Westport VillageThe timeline of my adult life, let’s say 22 and on) I’ve looked at different ways of growing from nursing school to psychology and writing; I’ve always known there was something bigger than me pushing me to learn as much as I can about myself and others so I can manage myself to do and be better.
Along this path I met a life coach through Junior League of Louisville, when I was in the lowest of lows in 2014, my email title to her on October 10, 2014, at 12:43am was: “Hopeful for my Future”
This life coach’s name is Jennifer Blair. Her company is Excavive and with her guidance, we were able to identify “The True Me” through a series of lessons and a Gallup Report. Truth be known, I still turn to it to this day when life throws me a curve ball. It helps me to look at myself and why my reaction to a certain person or situation is, it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself because years down the road, I’m still looking at it to make sure I’m on the right wavelength to be my most authentic self and to do so without causing harm to others.
Given a current situation I was polarized by, I couldn’t respond fast enough as my interpretation wasn’t what I liked and to be sure I’m not on the wrong path, I’ve turned to this strengths finder for insight as I’m awaiting three outside appointments to come to fruition for more guidance. While I’m waiting I’m reading the words of others since my 2nd top strength is “Input” and here is the breakdown of it:
“You are inquisitive. You collect things. You might collect information—words, facts, books, and quotations—or you might collect tangible objects such as butterflies, baseball cards, porcelain dolls, or sepia photographs. Whatever you collect, you collect it because it interests you. And yours is the kind of mind that finds so many things interesting. The world is exciting precisely because of its infinite variety and complexity. If you read a great deal, it is not necessarily to refine your theories but, rather, to add more information to your archives. If you like to travel, it is because each new location offers novel artifacts and facts. These can be acquired and then stored away. Why are they worth storing? At the time of storing it is often hard to say exactly when or why you might need them, but who knows when they might become useful? With all those possible uses in mind, you really don’t feel comfortable throwing anything away. So you keep acquiring and compiling and filing stuff away. It’s interesting. It keeps your mind fresh. And perhaps one day some of it will prove valuable.”
So here I am flexing my INPUT strength with this collection of quotes for dealing with a hostile human being that isn’t in my life but greatly impacts it negatively.
I hope that you find strength in these quotes as they are offering me a great deal of inner peace as I’m working through this tumultuous time.
To the writers of these quotes, I’m grateful for your vulnerability to show the world your observations and to do so with grace. Thank you!
– All the Writers in the World –
Bryant McGill said:
Some people have abusive, negative, controlling tendencies in their blood; they are wired for havoc, bickering, and deception. They know of no other way to interface with other except through their crafted chaos. Chaos is their home-court advantage where they play their mind-games so they can have power over you; it’s a rigged game you can never win.
Thich Nhat Hanh said:
When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.”
Susan Forward said:
“Children who are not encouraged to do, to try, to explore, to master, and to risk failure, often feel helpless and inadequate. Over-controlled by anxious, fearful parents, these children often become anxious and fearful themselves. This makes it difficult for them to mature. Many never outgrow the need for ongoing parental guidance and control. As a result, their parents continue to invade, manipulate, and frequently dominate their lives.”
Yehuda Berg said:
“Hurt people hurt people. That’s how pain patterns get passed on, generation after generation. Break the chain today. Meet anger with sympathy, contempt with compassion, cruelty with kindness. Greet grimaces with smiles. Forgive and forget about finding fault. Love is the weapon of the future.”
Maya Angelou said:
“Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean.”
Paulo Coelho said:
“Intense, unexpected suffering passes more quickly than suffering that is apparently bearable; the latter goes on for years and, without our noticing, eats away at our souls, until, one day, we are no longer able to free ourselves from the bitterness and it stays with us for the rest of our lives.”
Israelmore Ayivor said:
“Save your skin from the corrosive acids from the mouths of toxic people. Someone who just helped you to speak evil about another person can later help another person to speak evil about you.”
Bryant McGill said:
“Toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you. There is an undeniable mind-body connection. Your arguments and hateful talk can land you in the emergency room or in the morgue. You were not meant to live in a fever of anxiety; screaming yourself hoarse in a frenzy of dreadful, panicked fight-or-flight that leaves you exhausted and numb with grief. You were not meant to live like animals tearing one another to shreds. Don’t turn your hair gray. Don’t carve a roadmap of pain into the sweet wrinkles on your face. Don’t lay in the quiet with your heart pounding like a trapped, frightened creature. For your own precious and beautiful life, and for those around you — seek help or get out before it is too late. This is your wake-up call!”
Robin Sacredfire said:
“Most people seem to get bored easily when having an easy life, and need to feed on drama and conflicts to feel alive. They are like vampires and zombies, that feed on the anger of others. The flesh and blood are replaced here by life energy. Now, the main point here is that toxic women and toxic men do make us sick. And life goes nowhere around such decadent souls. Alone, we have choices. With a mentally sick person in our life, you can’t make plans for the future. It’s impossible to make long-term plans when teaming with people that are too obsessed with conflicts and selfish needs. And hopefully, there will come a time when such individuals are segregated from society and put in mental hospitals. Until that moment comes, we can only avoid them and label them toxic personalities.”
Erin Hanson said:
“Do not hold your breath for anyone,
Do not wish your lungs to be still,
It may delay the cracks from spreading,
But eventually, they will.
Sometimes to keep yourself together
You must allow yourself to leave,
Even if breaking your own heart
Is what it takes to let you breathe.”
T.F. Hodge said:
Manipulation, fueled with good intent, can be a blessing. But when used wickedly, it is the beginning of a magician’s karmic calamity.
Criss Jami said:
“Just because something isn’t a lie does not mean that it isn’t deceptive. A liar knows that he is a liar, but one who speaks mere portions of truth in order to deceive is a craftsman of destruction.”
Laura Davis said:
“Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused—pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So she short-circuits them and goes numb. For many children, any expression of feelings, even a single tear, is cause for more severe abuse. Again, the only recourse is to shut down. Feelings go underground.”
C. JoyBell C. said:
“Pain is a pesky part of being human, I’ve learned it feels like a stab wound to the heart, something I wish we could all do without, in our lives here. Pain is a sudden hurt that can’t be escaped. But then I have also learned that because of pain, I can feel the beauty, tenderness, and freedom of healing. The pain feels like a fast stab wound to the heart. But then healing feels like the wind against your face when you are spreading your wings and flying through the air! We may not have wings growing out of our backs, but healing is the closest thing that will give us that wind against our faces.”
William Faulkner said:
“Never be afraid to raise your voice for honesty and truth and compassion against injustice and lying and greed. If people all over the world…would do this, it would change the earth.”
The truth is that no matter how many writers you collect quotes from, how many times you speak to your partner, how many times you say and show love to a child, they’re simply that… a child. They’re being controlled by something that’s currently bigger than the love you give them, it’s called hate. Stay in your lane to rise above this phase because love prevails. Time and patience are the keys to success when combating hatred. History proves that those two things are fundamental in any war.