Taking a load off in life and in your relationship is one of the fundamental keys to maintaining a healthy commentary about your life and the love you’re able to give and receive.
Everyone wants to have at least one person in this world that they can share everything with. We’re not just reaching for it from learned social conformities, a large majority of people long for love and affection. In evolutionary psychology and behavioral ecology, human mating strategies are a set of behaviors used by people to attract, select, and keep mates.
But how to do attract that one mate we really want?
We have to love ourselves and put our needs out on the table and see who’s willing to pick them up with you and run with us. Truth is, we all have our individual messes that make us who we are and what we have to deal with. The trick is finding someone who will support you through your struggles and vice versa.
But first, you have to love yourself because they have to know what you’re willing to accept in terms of treatment. If you don’t love you, how will they?
A part of loving yourself is finding solo quiet time. Does this exist in our “always on digital” life? It can, you just have to find the moments in a day or week where you have planned alone time. The solitude isn’t selfish; it’s quite the opposite. It allows your mind to focus on you. Being by yourself with zero distractions allows your mind to focus and decompress.
Clarity is a wonderful gift to give you and your partner. You can release your stress through writing, working out, cleaning, meditating, or whatever tickles your fancy.
Solitude can enhance the quality of your life and love. Personally, I love it. I love it just as much as I love being with my husband. When I spend time alone, I get a better understanding of myself and what’s going on within my leather shell we call a body.
That time alone gives me the fundamental foundation of what a healthy self-love looks like as well as the healthy in-love life I choose to live. Love isn’t easy, it has it’s ups and downs and regardless to if it’s you or if it’s any other love in your life, you have to be good to you so others will follow your lead.
I hope whatever you do this weekend you find a chance to decompress and find inner peace in solitude.
Much love, Bella