Quick mental survey, how many of you have “beef”, “bad vibes”, or any other slang you want to call a negative relationship that impacts you?
Everyone’s hand can invisible raise and I give you permission to put it back down because the point of the visual theatrics of this is the simple statement that you and at least one other soul have friction at this time and if you’re that rare high-breed pastel colored unicorn pooping glitter in Cherokee Park, you’re in this scenario so just own it, sweet girl.
Think about this person, why do you have them as a disruption in your echo into the world? It’s silly. You know it, I know it, and somewhere deep inside that person, they know it. With that being said, you have to come to grips with it and let it go; completely. Like don’t look back, move forward, throw some glitter, and push out of that space because you must if you want to get away from them.
But if you have the courage, I challenge you to reach out to them and ask them for coffee, tea, water, or any other drink other than an adult bev. Nothing like your friend Pappy or Basil to show-up uninvited and stir up an argument. Bourbon savvy or not, alcohol can bring out a different beast, it’s best to leave that conversation for Q&A one alone time with your soon to be friend.
Yes, I’m insane. I just called this person you don’t like your friend. Well guess what? They are because once you remove the friction or misinformed judgements the only thing left is two souls trying to get through life.
And can we keep this one thing on the down low?
I was in that relationship with a woman this week. Yes, me the “glitter throwing” me. But once I became brave enough to get this one situation sorted out I realized that me and this woman, that I thought hated me, have so much in common. From our values in philanthropy, interests in art, growing neighborhoods we love, friends we share, and so on.
It made me take a huge step back and rethink what my role in it was … My role was silent. I heard some noise and instead of going straight to the source; which I normally do. Instead I went into radio silence mode and said nothing.
Silence is the biggest form of approval in any situation where you feel pain from another’s wrongdoing or in this case a rumor; a horrible reminder of my disdain for the game telephone in elementary school.
The rumor was bigger than it was because when discussed between her and I, we apologized and mended whatever the tension was.
And to think, it’s how “The Good Girls Club” was started. The tale was a figment of one persons mind and when the words left his mouth, the car went into autopilot and sped away taking a brush that wasn’t mine to paint with.
Sure, his rumor created “The GGC” with his negative words but at the end of the day, I gave away my power of peace and traded it for resentment and hurt feelings.
All resulting to something I’ll never do again. If we’ve got beef, I hope one of us is eating it. If he have bad vibes, let’s talk to establish equal ground. If you heard a rumor that I said something, ask me.
With each letter I typed for this and all of the energy this has consumed time of my life that I can’t get back but with each passing moment, I gave learned how to cherish it and address things as they’re happening rather than let it take one more second of my life.
When you love yourself enough to love others, even when you think they don’t deserve it, they need it even more. Never stop being your own bright light. Take back your pen and write yourself a love note about how you’re going to get through this obstacle because you realize your life deserves it.
On this Woman Crush Wednesday, discover how to love yourself unconditionally so you’ll grow the bravery to speak in any situation to clear the air, get on the same wave lengths, and bring peace to your life and others in it.
Be your own pastel colored unicorn,you deserve it.