So it’s been a hot minute since I posted any follow-up to my life lessons and my 34th birthday is rapidly approaching like a bat out of hell so I’m jumping right back in where I left off.
Life lesson #6 – Forgiveness
Letting go of anger is difficult to do. When you’re wronged by someone it feels easier to hold onto those wounds and allow them to shield you from that same pain never allowing that specific feeling enter your life again.
But what no one tells you about that is when you hang on to the pain, it only hurts you.
My favorite quote regarding pain and forgiveness is by Nelson Mandela, “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” Which is a counter action of the situation.
My strongest moments in life came from my perserverance to push through whatever it was that was holding me back simply because they became to heavy to carry.
Think about a bad memory in your life, recent or in the past, and I’m sure you’ll have at least one that will bring up an emotional block you’ve set into that space around another person.
Now, try to see the situation through the other persons point of view. Playing devil’s advocate for a moment can enlighten you on why that person hurt you. It doesn’t make it okay but it offers a great amount of serenity about the situation.
When you think of this person it makes you empatheticeven on a surface level. But if you’re willing to dig deep in the reasons that follow their actions I bet you’ll find pain, hurt, pride, shame, and so much more … Hurt people, hurt people. It’s a sad reality but rings true in so many situations.
Finding this space always helps me in moving on. Their pain caused you pain but this is where you can be different and break the toxic circle. Love yourself enough to move on without their pain imprinted on you.
You’re a survivor.
You’re going to bounce back and land on your own two feet. Brush your shoulders off and keep your chin up as you walk right out of the situation.
And a small tip for forgiveness is to also forgive yourself. If you can’t do this for your personal well-being, than how can you forgive anyone else?
Love conquers all. Forgive all but love your selfie first.