Definition of Beauty:
As a little girl, growing up, my grama used to tell me when I asked her if I was pretty or told her how pretty I thought someone was, “Marie, beauty is skin deep, but ugly is to the bone. Beauty fades away while ugly holds it’s own.”
As a makeup artist one may think my perception or idea of beauty is all external because so many think my job is to “make women beautiful.” Oh how wrong they are my friends! Let me elaborate! There are two parts to this explanation. First of all, Grama was spot on with her definition of beauty! A person can be so easy on the eyes, but with a terrible outlook, negative attitude, and selfish personality they won’t be viewed as beautiful for long. On the other hand, despite our physical attributes, if a person is caring, kind, loving, giving and the kind of person that makes you a better person just by being near them, that is a true beauty if I have ever known one!
Second…my grama may have told me what beauty was, but my late brother showed me what beauty is! I lost my brother 10 years ago to a congenital heart defect. He was 19. We never knew from one day to the next how long we would have him with us. It’s funny, because when you live with someone who is terminally ill, you hear quite frequently “live everyday as if it were your last.” Think about those words. You want what you want and you think about the things that you want to do because you don’t know how much time you have left. When you take a step back and analyze that statement, if someone really lived like that, how selfish would they really be? Losing my brother taught me a lesson about beauty that was never spoken while he was on this earth just learned after his passing. Jay could have lost his battle everyday. I can’t begin to tell you how many “D Days” we celebrated and how many Christmas’ we had in July. The doctors told my mother to prepare herself and us so many times. The amazing part of this is that Jay never lived like it was his last day. He lived like it was yours. Everyday he called every family member in our immediate as well as extended family just to tell them that he loved them. My Grama had 9 kids, 19 grand kids and 27 great grand kids! That’s a lot of calls! When Jay was in your presence, whether you had known him for years or you were a new friend that he met a moment ago, it was if he knew he may never see you again in this life. He gave you every bit of respect, kindness and love that you as a human being deserve. He lived in a way where he only thought of others. He lived and died with no regrets. He showed me the beauty that I want to share with the world. A warm hug, a smile to a stranger, looking at someone when they speak to me, just being present with people…Beauty is a something we share with each other. I believe beauty can be seen in your eyes and felt in your heart. The truest of beauty is Love.